What are you contributing with all that hate?
A dancer does this thing called spotting. She picks a point in the distance and fixes her gaze upon it, and as her body pirouettes she tries to never lose sight of that spot. She spins but her head stays steady, waiting until the last possible moment to whip itself around and return again to start. It’s the only way to perform that magical endless cyclone without making herself sick.
I am neck deep in writing projects right now but I’m not dizzy. I am reveling in my children, often literally spinning, but I am always, always spotting. I morph from writer to wife to mother to taxi driver to maid to cook to praying mantis or lioness twins or whichever Littlest Petshop character I’m relegated to in the constant bouts of imaginary play, and it’s the hardest thing and the greatest thing all at once but I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I am morbidly busy but I know when to quit, too, and most of all I know that I don’t have time for anything that doesn’t give back in some way to the amazing people I see all around me. I don’t have time for drama and bullshit.
I’ve got a brother who teaches English to Somali high-schoolers while his law-school wife works 12-hour days helping the ones our system fails. I’ve got another brother who builds beautiful things with his hands while helping raise two daughters he inherited. I’ve got an aunt who is saving children one at a time when no one else can and an uncle who is churning out self-made CD’s filled with incredible lyrics and vocals and instruments all performed by him including the harmonica he taught himself to play mere weeks ago — oh, and he wins contests for his political cartoons in his spare time. I’ve got a cousin who can make magic out of any instrument he touches and now he’s passing those gifts along to children, another cousin who single-handedly managed to raise 70 donated bicycles for Cambodians, and yet another cousin who took a dream and cracked it wide open and stood in the fire of all that came with it, all for that love. And I’ve told you all about my mom, and there are countless more examples all around me. All around you, too, I bet. Look at what she is doing for flood victims, look at what he has done in the south. Look at the beauty this dad and his amazing son are putting out into the world every damn day. In less than a week we will either have our first man of color or our first female in the highest office in the land, something I never thought I would see in my lifetime. If you feel a subtle change in the air each morning, if things smell a little better or shine a little brighter it’s because there are people who are working hard to contribute something to this world for all of us to share. That’s as it should be.
And that’s why it’s so hard for me to understand the rest of you. No, not 99% of the people reading this, but you. You out there with your ugly and your menace and your hate like slick black sludge.
Whether you are writing dirty campaign ads or forwarding hateful emails, whether you are commenting anonymously on blogs or creating entire websites designed to attack other bloggers, whether you are secretly reading other people’s words only to dissect and ridicule them, I want you to ask yourself — what are you contributing? What have you got to show for yourself? Where are your gifts to the world? Where are your words that others will be inspired to quote? What will your obituary say?
The thing I understand least of all is how you have the time for this. Do you not have jobs or families, commitments or goals? Do you not have friends? Don’t you get tired? Aren’t you getting dizzy? Aren’t the fumes from your toxic rage poisoning you bit by bit every day? Don’t you want to be someone better than this?
I forgive you. I wish for you peace, and love, and the innate, genuine desire to want others to succeed, because that is such a gift. Because we all benefit from that, even you. Especially you.
This life is too short and too precious to waste a single moment of it tearing other people down, don’t you see? You are blowing your only shot, but there’s still time to change. Find your unique gifts and imagine them a sparkling emerald in the distance, and stare them down. Focus on them – spot — and spin and spin and spin.
Insta-Mom says:
This post needs to be on billboards, in newspapers, and shouted from rooftops.
October 31st, 2008 at 9:55 am
CaryRN says:
Well said. I for one have had enough hate for a lifetime.
October 31st, 2008 at 9:59 am
Rock and Roll Mama says:
Kay now I have chills. Great post, great sentiment, and what a wonderful reminder that all we can truly change is ourselves- but in doing that, we create the capacity to change so much more. Nice bringing the light, Magdelena.
October 31st, 2008 at 10:00 am
Meg says:
Agree with Instamom. Buy a full-age ad or something. Maybe start a viral email forward, because this? This is good stuff.
October 31st, 2008 at 10:01 am
JD at I Do Things says:
Maggie, you so beautifully express this sentiment that is so common (life is short!) but so important and so totally unacknowledged by so many people. I hope they are capable of change. But sadly I do think some of them find happiness only in tearing other people down.
October 31st, 2008 at 10:02 am
Redneck Mommy says:
Amen.
Life is too short for crap like that. I don’t get it. But sadly, the people who spend their time spewing such drivel are the ones who REALLY don’t get it.
Great post. As usual. Smooches.
October 31st, 2008 at 10:03 am
sizzle says:
THANK YOU.
October 31st, 2008 at 10:06 am
Bennie says:
Every time I read something that I think you just cannot top you blow me out of the water again. This should be required reading for everyone.
October 31st, 2008 at 10:10 am
Tootsie Farklepants says:
Amen to that sister!
October 31st, 2008 at 10:15 am
Susan says:
So timely, so perfect. Thank you, Maggie.
October 31st, 2008 at 10:15 am
magpie says:
You, honey, you brought tears to my eyes. What a goddam beautiful post.
October 31st, 2008 at 10:17 am
Mo says:
Once again you have managed to put into beautiful words what I have been feeling. You are an amazing writer with a true gift.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
October 31st, 2008 at 10:20 am
Christina says:
Amen.
October 31st, 2008 at 10:25 am
The Cotton Wife says:
I have been torn down and my words deconstructed for mocking endlessly on these hate-filled websites.
One website has been going for over a year now.
It used to hurt but now I just really feel sorry for those people.
October 31st, 2008 at 10:26 am
Jim says:
Yeah, I was just on a blog where it was just a rant. It was a political rant, but the blogger just had to vent, curse and belittle. What’s worse is that 99% of the readers just commented away about how so right the blogger was. I unsubbed. I don’t need that and I’m amazed that people waste their time being so negative.
October 31st, 2008 at 10:33 am
Mama Dawg says:
Amen. I’m so sick of the hate myself. Especially since the hate is directed at people that merely have a difference of opinion from yours (not you specifically, you in general).
Thanks for this post.
October 31st, 2008 at 10:39 am
pgoodness says:
This is a fantastic post. You hit the nail on the head – why waste so much time on the jealousy and hatred? I’ve never understood it, but you put into words much better than I!
October 31st, 2008 at 10:41 am
Jennifer H says:
You have some amazing family and friends.
Loved this post, every word of it. I don’t understand how people have the time to spread that kind of ugly, either.
October 31st, 2008 at 10:44 am
we_be_toys says:
Of all the things I’ve written down in my journal this week, all the snappy comebacks to hate-mongering that I’ve left unposted because I didn’t want to go that low myself, you have managed to blow them all away. Damn, you just said exactly what I wanted to say, and so beautifully (see I never would have made that dancer comparison – awesome!)
Hate is a virally vile thing – it feeds on itself and spawns more hate. It sucks the joy out of life, and maybe that’s the thing with haters – they have no joy. If that is the case, I pity them, because hate is a miserable companion.
You darling, on the other hand, are a constant joy!
(Thanks for the link to Bennie – he’s had the week from hell and could use a little boost)
October 31st, 2008 at 10:45 am
Mr Lady says:
Maggie, THANK YOU. Good lord, this was perfect.
October 31st, 2008 at 10:51 am
ballerina toes says:
Beautiful and perfect and thank you. Happy Halloween!
October 31st, 2008 at 11:04 am
Teri says:
Amen, sistah!!! I’m with you 100%. Let’s focus our energy on what we can do to make this world better. No time for tearing down!!
October 31st, 2008 at 11:05 am
blissfully caffeinated says:
Amazing and timely. I wish I could remember to hold my spot every once ina while.
October 31st, 2008 at 11:06 am
muskrat says:
Trolls go to the freezing portion of Hell.
October 31st, 2008 at 11:16 am
merlotmom says:
This is beautiful and so true. A few years ago, I decided I had no room in my life for negative, angry people. It is amazing how much light has come through and how little I miss them.
October 31st, 2008 at 11:24 am
Cathy says:
Lovely and well-said! I’d love to repost and/or link this on my blog, let me know if that’s OK with you and I’ll pass it on to my readers with kudos to you for such a great piece!! Thanks, and have a BLESSED weekend!
October 31st, 2008 at 11:32 am
Karen Sugarpants says:
I’m proud to say I helped in shutting down a hate blog this week. A horrible example of this community. It was hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, the light that is in all of us that do not participate in such things. Great post Maggie, as always. xoxo
October 31st, 2008 at 11:38 am
brandi says:
Thank you for pointing out the good that is happening all around us…sometimes it is so easy to get causght up in the sludge to where the whole world looks bleak. Keep Spinning…
October 31st, 2008 at 11:44 am
Rachie says:
I don’t think anyone could have said it better. This message is so important and it couldn’t have come at a better time. I hope all of your readers get around to post and take it as they should. Thank you so much.
October 31st, 2008 at 11:44 am
KD @ A Bit Squirrelly says:
What a beautiful post. Every time I waste one second, thought, or breath on anything other then love, acceptance and joy I am not only doing a disservice to others, but to myself as well. Thank you for articulating what many have felt and are feeling.
October 31st, 2008 at 11:46 am
Nicole says:
It’s good of you to point this out, especially with all the political musings now in progress. If only they’d listen.
And, it never hurts as a good, swift kick-in-the-pants style reminder for the other 99 percent of us who might need to dial down our own negativity. Just a bit.
October 31st, 2008 at 11:48 am
Natalie says:
You are a brilliant gift to this world. Thank you.
October 31st, 2008 at 11:58 am
Kendall says:
Thank you for saying what the rest of us are thinking. I agree with Nicole, maybe the rest of us also need to dial down on our negativity a bit. I’d like to think that when I go I will have left something beautiful in the world and hope that isn’t just wishful thanking.
Again, thank you Ma’am.
October 31st, 2008 at 12:03 pm
Mojo says:
I really shouldn’t be surprised to read something so beautifully spun from you. You do it so frequently, and so flawlessly that you’d think I’d just come to expect it.
But for some reason, you always amaze and delight me. Which is why every time you jump to the top of my blogroll, I jump over to see what new wonder you’ve laid before us.
And it seems no matter how quickly I get here, 30 or 40 or 100 have already visited and said everything I would have if I’d gotten here earlier.
But the thing that can’t ever be said too often is that you bring light instead of darkness and we — I — love you for it.
October 31st, 2008 at 12:21 pm
Pamela says:
Interesting timing. I read a post by an extremely talented and popular blogger today, not on that blogger’s site, but another that the blogger writes for. It was just the sort of thing you were talking about. All kinds of hate and anger and general spew. And the comments? More hate and spew, being thrown about in every direction–at the blogger, at other commenters. Not especially cool of anyone.
So thanks.
October 31st, 2008 at 12:25 pm
stacy di says:
yes yes yes. thank you.
October 31st, 2008 at 12:27 pm
Alison Veres says:
Hi Maggie —
I want to be on your team. I like the way you play. And since you brought it up, I want my obituary to read: “She tried to bring peace and healing to everyone she could reach.”
It’s easier to tear people down than it is to build them up. It’s easier to criticize than to complement. Look at our language. How many negative words for people can you come up with off the top of your head? Idiot! Moron! Imbecile! Fool! Doofus! Bastard! Asshole! (…and it gets more and more colorful…) Are there as many words you can use that mean “nice person”? or “smart person” ? Off the top of your head? Can you think of any?
I look forward to the time in our evolutionary journey when competition will be replaced by cooperation, and tearing people down will be replaced by building people up. There’s so much pain and hurt out there. We can make it better. Learning to overcome hate would be a good first step.
October 31st, 2008 at 12:28 pm
Angella says:
I’m new here, and need to shout a huge AMEN. I have been hurt by trolls, as have friends of mine.
Who has time to be so awful?
Loved this.
October 31st, 2008 at 12:31 pm
KayO says:
I’m struggling with this: it says, NOT the 99% of people – YOU (meaning ME). So, yeah, I think it’s pointing out all those other poor misguided negative people, but no, it’s addressed to ME. What am I doing that’s beautiful and good? How much of my life is cynical negativity?
I don’t really come out well in this self-assessment.
A man I have mocked, in what I consider a gently teasing fashion, came to see me today simply to talk about his concern for me after the recent death of my husband. He knew, he said, something of the struggles I went through in the three years of home care and nursing home care. In his case it wasn’t a spouse, but a child …
I had no idea. I’m still humbled by his sharing this experience with me, and his taking the time to come talk to me. We’ve always had a very superficial, how-ya-doin-buddy relationship. That was a hell of an effort he made. And what have I done for him? Called him Weird and laughed at his public persona, which apparently covers up the worst grief I can imagine in this life.
Even the little negatives are evil.
October 31st, 2008 at 12:36 pm
Julie W. says:
Yep. The haters should take a good long look in the mirror. You know who you are.
October 31st, 2008 at 12:41 pm
Heather says:
Amen. The hope in the wold is sometimes the only reason I drag myself out of bed, because the bright shiny light that pours forth is so worth it. Again, Amen, Maggie!
October 31st, 2008 at 12:41 pm
Renée aka Mekhismom says:
“Who that cap fits let them wear it.”
Bob Marley
It is sad and unfortunate that people are so negative. I try to steer clear of that as much as possible. And sometimes, if I feel particularly moved I will present an alternative view of the situation.
The place is big enough for all of us. I don’t understand why people don’t just shut their browser and move on when they see something they don’t agree with. The rants and negative commentary are so unnecessary.
Great post.
October 31st, 2008 at 12:47 pm
Oh2122 says:
Hell, yeah!
I am thrilled that so many people are getting involved this yeat, but it seems like it’s become open season for whack-jobs and nuts.
I will never understand peope who feel they must tear others down to make themselves feel powerful.
October 31st, 2008 at 12:53 pm
Colleen says:
Maggie~
That was beautiful, as always. I can only hope it can take the haters down a notch or two.
October 31st, 2008 at 12:55 pm
Duck says:
Lioness twins ACTIVATE. Form of……..mantis?
Sorry. I need coffee.
October 31st, 2008 at 1:57 pm
vodkamom says:
You know, one thing I have learned from teaching kindergarten? Forgiveness. Yeah. People can be rude, people can be mean, people are inconsiderate; but what can I be? The better person – because I can forgive and move on. (and the OTHER most important thing- never argue with a crazy person. You’ll NEVER win………)
October 31st, 2008 at 2:24 pm
PAPA says:
I just want to dance. This was so beautiful and inspired.
October 31st, 2008 at 2:35 pm
Wisconsin Mommy says:
Awesome – just awesome.
October 31st, 2008 at 2:41 pm
Aunt Jenn says:
So Say We All.
I had one of those days that make it all worth it. A very tough, very wounded, very wary teenage girl asked me for a hug and whispered “thank you” in my ear.
Yep… it was that good.
love you bunches, thanks for the shout out.
October 31st, 2008 at 4:22 pm
patois says:
Spot-on. I’m amazed at what is constantly being spewed. I want to continue to be amazed. I don’t want it to become so common, so expected.
October 31st, 2008 at 4:53 pm
anymommy says:
So well said, there’s nothing to add. I’m going to remember this post when I start to slip.
October 31st, 2008 at 8:53 pm
beanhayden says:
You got it right, Maggie!!
Thanks for this post!
October 31st, 2008 at 9:23 pm
flutter says:
Amen
November 1st, 2008 at 12:39 am
O'Neal says:
Amen to that, and kudos to you for pointing them out!
Life is way too short, and possibly (for *most*) THE most beautiful thing we as a generation have EVER had the opportunity to witness first hand! Nobody is promised tomorrow, nor our next breath. That is just one of the many reasons I can NOT understand WHY do so many people feel like they HAVE to make it their mission to seek & destroy EVERY little bit of good & happiness there is left!
Like my Grand Daddy always said, “All we’ve got in this ol world is each other, why can’t we just love instead of tearing each other down?”. That is especially true in families.
Honestly, I believe (since I DO believe!) Satan is on a rampage and he will use whomever he can gets his dirty hands on, whispering in their ear. I’ve actually had to make it my mission to get up every day and literally FIND my joy! Even then, throughout the day, I continue gripping it tightly being sure that if I lose sight of it even for a milisecond , I stop and recover it because once it’s gone, it’s just too easy for the day to continue rocketing downwards, spreading like wild fire, ultimately infecting & dragging everyone you come in contact with down. Thus repeating this ugly joy-shattering mind set.
Just imagine, if everyone of us took just a minute of our day to pass on the joy and happiness, how much happiness would eventually be returned??? Call it whatever you may, but the phrase “You sow dirt, you reap dirt” is totally true! Even when it comes to raising children, a positive happy attitude will return happy positive smiling little ones!
November 1st, 2008 at 3:10 am
mamatulip says:
Yes.
Just yes. Resoundingly.
November 1st, 2008 at 5:11 am
Liz B says:
Well written and simply wonderful. I love your perspective. When times are as tough as these the last thing we need is others dragging us all down further. Good for you and your family. You are all truly making the world a better place.
Bless You all.
November 1st, 2008 at 5:31 am
Fran says:
This is very compelling. Thank you for the reminder. We should *all* watch what we say/blog.
November 1st, 2008 at 5:39 am
Five Husbands says:
Lovely Maggie, perfectly lovely. Thank you for adding light to my day.
November 1st, 2008 at 9:32 am
jen says:
amen, sister. a-freaking-men.
November 1st, 2008 at 9:45 am
Kellie says:
I am so touched by this entry. Thank you, Maggie. Your words have been echoing in my ears since I first read this, yesterday. I am in whole agreement with you, even if I find myself shaking my head in disbelief (and morbid curiosity) that there even are blogs or people that could have prompted such a post. And what on earth are they finding to criticize you about?
November 1st, 2008 at 10:24 am
Eileen Bennett says:
Wonderful post!
The way I see it, everyone has the option of seeing life through the eyes of fear or of love.
If you view life from the eyes of fear, everything is frightening and you feel compelled to defend yourself by tearing others down or being hateful or racist or violent.
When you see life through he eyes of love, you are open, honest, forgiving, generous and at peace.
In my ill-informed and humble opinion, you can broadly divide the attitudes of the 2 men running for the office of President of the USA into love or fear-based philosophies.
If I had a vote, I know which one I would be choosing!
Eileen xxx
November 1st, 2008 at 11:01 am
Christy says:
This was so well put. I often find that I can’t wrap my mind around the hate you write about, and the time and energy it consumes…and that it’s sad, really. Can you imagine how different this world we live in would be if we ALL focused even a fraction of our time being positive forces in the world?
November 1st, 2008 at 12:22 pm
mariah says:
Don’t even get me started on HATE! I do not understand HATE! I don’t understand the waste of time…
November 1st, 2008 at 12:58 pm
Tea Escapade says:
Awesome post. Thank you for speaking your mind. Thank you speaking the truth. Thank you for opening our eyes.
November 1st, 2008 at 1:17 pm
Kellie says:
You are so right! I needed to read this…
Life is too short to dwell in drama-land. Why is it so easy to find ridicule and stink eyes galore but hard to find quality people who want to give and spend their time productively?
I cannot fathom those who waste their time trying to belittle others. The unhappy seem to prey on others so as to suck their energy. I call them “Chi suckers”.
Wow. Simply love this post. It needs to be posted on every message board, blog sidebar and social network out there.
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November 1st, 2008 at 1:39 pm
Missives From Suburbia says:
There could not be a more perfect time for this post.
November 1st, 2008 at 2:52 pm
A Free Man says:
Very well put, Maggie. I don’t get it either. Don’t get where all that hate comes from within a person.
November 1st, 2008 at 4:17 pm
kellypea says:
Yes, absolutely, uh-huh. Amen. I think I’ve had so much bottled up over these very issues, my thoughts collide at lightning speed and none of it feels safe to expel lest I, too, become one of those you so aptly describe. When I try, it’s only a shadow of my real intensity over it all. I’m glad you were able to say it so effectively. Ahhh….
November 1st, 2008 at 4:38 pm
Ann says:
You put into words what many of us have been thinking.
I wonder if the haters will recognize themselves…
November 1st, 2008 at 5:14 pm
zenmom says:
Brava. Brilliant. Beautiful. Thank you.
November 1st, 2008 at 5:22 pm
The Introvert says:
Thank you. I have been appalled at the amount of hate and animosity I’ve seen lately – particularly surrounding the election. Outright lies, personal attacks, mean and hateful insults…really? I thought our country was better than this.
November 1st, 2008 at 5:51 pm
Sage Moonstone says:
Wonderful Post.. THANK YOU!!
November 1st, 2008 at 8:23 pm
Lori in Denver says:
You put into words what I have not.
November 1st, 2008 at 9:26 pm
Heather says:
How should we be able to forget those ancient myths that are at the beginning of all peoples, the myths about dragons that at the last moment turn into princesses; perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us once beautiful and brave. Perhaps everything terrible is in its deepest being something helpless that wants help from us. (Rilke)
Maggie, dear Maggie, there was a time when I could of asked and not answered this question. They are me and many others. I don’t truly go forth and spew hatred and I know I am speaking to a sympathetic and informed crowd, that can understand. But, I vent as much as anyone else and sometimes this space is where I have to do that.
But there is no devil, just hurt and sometimes hurt can become a dragon. I am not so strong as to fight the dragons everyday, I do have the luck that my dragons tend to attack on single person: me.
I think about this:
Frodo: It’s a pity Bilbo didn’t kill him when he had the chance.
Gandalf: Pity? It was pity that stayed Bilbo’s hand. Many that live deserve death. Some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them, Frodo? Do not be too eager to deal out death in judgment. Even the very wise cannot see all ends.
November 1st, 2008 at 9:32 pm
Captain Steve says:
Yet another post where you have apparently plugged into my brain. How do you DO that?
November 2nd, 2008 at 8:24 am
fancy feet says:
The ballerina, the spotting, and all of that spinning….it’s a gorgeous image.
November 2nd, 2008 at 8:50 am
qt says:
Word. Who has the TIME for it?
November 2nd, 2008 at 11:08 am
conversemomma says:
Wow! I wish that every single person could read this, get this, live this. But, the sad thing is the people who most need to understand this, won’t? All we can do is what we do, live our best selves and know that we are putting the positive light and love out into the universe.
You are quite the advocate and voice. Shine on, baby. Shine on!
November 2nd, 2008 at 12:23 pm
enthalpymama says:
Wow. Part of me is in such awe, I am not sure I could add anything else useful to the internet today. But, seeing you dance so beautifully, makes me want to dance all the more.
Thank you.
November 2nd, 2008 at 2:14 pm
arizaphale says:
Never a truer word spoken and never more eloquently. Bless you mate.
November 3rd, 2008 at 4:39 am
Gypsy says:
And now you’ve got me thinking about my own meanness, my own spleen that I tend to vent in certain circles. And it’s… a wakeup.
November 3rd, 2008 at 10:58 am
Tina says:
Maggie, this is so true and so right and, as always, so well said.
November 4th, 2008 at 12:37 pm
Wendee says:
Thank you for this beautiful post. Right on!!! I was blogging about hate myself the other day after some anonymous person kept sending hateful comments. I don’t get it. They need to get out there and DO something positive in the world…Sending you lots of love and light. You deserve it!
November 9th, 2008 at 3:37 pm
Cheryl says:
Much like Barack Obama’s comment in his victory speech on Tuesday night… even if they didn’t vote for him, he’ll be THEIR president too.
So I, like you, choose to lift them up. In prayer, in love, in faith. The haters, the racists, the religious zealots w/ no forgiveness or tolerance in their hearts, the agitators, the ones that will say/do anything to convince others that anything “left” of THEIR beliefs is evil or wrong… I lift them ALL up. Especially them.
May they find some peace along the way… the next four years will be long, and HARD. There is much to be undone. Much more still to do. I don’t know if Obama is the man who will take us all the way, but I believe he will be a force that will inspire us all to go on this new journey. To wake up, finally. We need so badly to wake up!
Thank you Maggie dear for so eloquently expressing what many of us are feeling. Mwuah!
November 9th, 2008 at 7:04 pm
Tracey says:
Wow. Just…wow.
I’m terrible about leaving comments on blogs. I read and enjoy and pass on the good stuff (have enjoyed your words for a while now!).
But I just had to say that this right here, this beautiful dance of the truest sentiment, THIS is the best stuff. Thanks.
November 9th, 2008 at 9:13 pm
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Bluestreak says:
your posts always get to me maggie.
November 17th, 2008 at 5:38 am
Toni says:
What an absolutely wonderful post! I am right there with you! I have yet to understand the hate and gossip that goes on, it’s so sad really.
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Emily R says:
Say it. Absolutely.
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